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I have never liked January and its New Year resolutions time. I don’t see the point. Each year is what you DAILY make it… for 365 days.
Many times, I saw people making plans and giving them up after a few weeks…
‘Man makes plans… and God laughs’ wrote the Author and Screenwriter Michael Chabon.
Why do we expect so much from ourselves?
Is it to justify our presence on Earth?
Answers are often found in Nature
I often find answers in Nature.
I love observing Nature around me, trees especially. In shamanism, they are called ‘The Plant people and the Standing People’.
Trees grow tall and strong knowing their purpose. They don’t ask themselves ‘What should I do with my life?’
They just are. They exist and make the world better (by providing oxygen for instance).
Us, the human kind, we have a brain and a heart. With these gifts, we should know what to do. Yet, we probably are the only species on Earth wondering what our purpose is.
Life is Chaos
Life is chaos.
I know what I’m talking about. Within two years, I lost my home, my beloved country, some close friends, my dignity, and my husband. None of these events were planned or thought. None of these things were part of my ‘plan’. They just happened to me.
Yes, life is chaos and any form of co-creation (coming from the heart) is a way to express or explain this chaos.
When you lose it all, you see everything clearly.
First you see who are ‘your allies’, to quote my dear friend and mentor Lucy V. Hay (Bang2Write). The allies are the ones who pick you up when you fall but also help you to fight back. ‘You can’t do without them’, she says. She is right. As always.
My other Friend and mentor, Kary Oberbrunner, wrote it in his life-changing book Unhackable that there are three types of people:
The Consumer, the critic, the creator.
The consumer consumes, probably to feed their emptiness with stuff.
The critic critics. Spotting the mistakes in others reassures them.
And Creators create. To me, this type is never reassured. They try, they test, and stumble often but they know their purpose. When creators let go of expectations, they become unrestricted and inspiring.
Simplicity
When you hit rock bottom, your needs become simple: food, shelter and love.
If you have those three things in your life, it’s a blessing. Millions of people on Earth do not have that.
When you fall, you realised that friends and family are what count in life.
On your death bed, the number of zeros on your bank account or your job title will do nothing for you. People make the difference.
People you love are the ones who are going to make your life meaningful.
Pilot Light Writing
That’s why I have changed the name of my website. It used to be called Inside the Writers Bubble but I felt quite lonely inside my bubble.
My friend and Shaman Catherine Maguire (https://www.inlightenment.it/) said to me,’ your gift is to light other people’s light, you’re a pilot light’. From there, another dear friend – the author Sally Bibb and my brother-in-law – Daniel helped me to put the pieces together.
And that’s how Pilot Light Writing is born.
We can’t do it on our own.
I am not interested in consuming or criticising.
I’m interested in bringing love into everything I do, so I can help other people who love what they do, to shine too.
We can’t get rid of the darkness or the shadow in this world. We can only bring light inside it.
So be shiny my friend. x
This post is dedicated in loving memory of my late husband, who will be missed forever.
My dear friend.
I’m sat here reading your words and yet again my mind is starting to question the way in which I see the world.
You have always given me strength and hope and I hope in someway I have given this back.
Thought provoking indeed.
You have always been a fighter and have always been my inspiration.
Love
My dear dear friend,
Next month will mark our 21 years of friendship. I don’t think I’ve ever had a friendship that lasted that long in my life. One day, we’ll need to celebrate that!
Thank you for always being there for me, thank you for your kind words, and thank you for being in my life xxx
Sending you massive amount of love your way xxx
Beautiful sentiment from a beatiful soul – proud to know you Sophie. I will always be your ally xxx
Very proud to know you Lucy xxx You’ve changed my life and my career! You’re a beautiful soul and you’re the best mentor ever!
Dear Sophie,
I am proud of your courage and fortitude. I worked with your husband, and really enjoyed our chats in the kitchen. He made me laugh and he spoke often of you and your children. I cannot imagine the pain you’re feeling.
I look forward to reading your new website.
Keep your light shining, Sophie.
Thank you Deborah. x I am very touched by your message. Words are failing me. Thank you xx